a space for late diagnosed ADHD women ♡

For the women who were diagnosed with ADHD way too late.

Welcome to the club, so happy you're here.

Not lazy. Just undiagnosed and making it work anyway.

soft, because it's quiet.
chaos, because there's a lot going on in here.

Join the club ♡ Wait, what is this?

"phone. keys. wallet."said out loud and physically touched every time. if I can't see it and feel it, it doesn't exist.

where are my keys?still in the door.
from yesterday.

diagnosed at 30.oh. THAT'S what that was.

Things we thought were just us.

Turns out they were just symptoms nobody ever named for us.

You thought you were lazy.You weren't. You could ace an English essay the morning it was due and then sit in a maths test and not write a single word, same brain, same day. Your brain runs on interest and urgency. When those are there, nothing can stop you. When they're not, the page is blank and you can't find the door in.
You can run an entire operation for someone else and forget to eat until 4pm.Same brain. You could hyperfocus for six hours and produce something that makes people go wait, how did you do that, and then not be able to reply to one email you've read twelve times. Both true. Same brain.
Everyone thought you had it together.Meanwhile you had no calendar for years and were just trusting your brain to remember where you had to be, which is a wild way to run a life.
Phone. Keys. Wallet. Said out loud every single time.Not because you're careful, but because if you can't see it and feel it, it doesn't exist. You stopped buying nice sunglasses years ago. The $10 ones from the servo are fine.
The diagnosis landed and your whole life rearranged itself in about 45 seconds.Not an illness, not a label, just finally the right explanation for the maths test, the sunglasses, the raspberries rotting in the back of the fridge, all of it.
You told one person and they said "honestly, that makes so much sense."Nobody was shocked. Your friends had watched you disappear mid-conversation for years and just thought that was you.

A fast brain. Not a broken one.
And why so many women get missed.

ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, which has to be one of the most misleading names ever invented. It's not a deficit of attention so much as a deficit of regulation. The attention is absolutely in there, the brain just decides where it goes and doesn't always take requests.

You get insane amounts of focus in some areas and what looks like total inability in others, often the same day, sometimes the same hour. Most of the research was done on boys. Girls present completely differently, so they got missed for decades.

50% of women with ADHD estimated to go undiagnosed into adulthood

5 yrs average delay between first symptoms and diagnosis in women

2x more likely than men to be misdiagnosed with anxiety or depression first

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